For Whom Are You a Caretaker of Memories?


James Hellwege made a profound statement a while ago, when he was bemoaning how few parents get involved in Scouting.
He was concerned about the number of parents who are making him the caretaker of their child's memories.
Talk about a bulb turning on! I vividly recalled times when:

  • A deployed parent would send a "Thank you" for posting digital photos of outings, because it helped them feel like s/he was there.
  • My wife and I would get into a familiar dialog with our son, "How was it?" "Fine." "What did you do?" "Stuff." "Would you do it again?" "Sure."
  • I'd overhear the Scouts at a subsequent meeting, chatting with their peers who could not attend about the awesome (or crummy) experience. Usually, they and I had significantly different opinions and observations.

How about you?
Are you having someone be the caretaker of your child's memories?
If so, please ask yourself what it is it that is more important to you.
If it's the case that you cannot afford to be collecting those memories, tell the Scouting leader.
In my case, I cannot hike well and backpacking is physically painful. But there were many less-strenuous activities I supported.